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Insights From The Road — Djuna Shellam The Write OWL — Episode 21

Insights From the Road

Djuna Shellam The Write OWL—Episode 21

Insights from the roadIn the 21st episode of Djuna Shellam The Write OWL, I thought I’d share some insights from the road and my relocation experience. I think moving should be the first three to ten most stressful life events on the stress list. You know, the list that includes death, loss of job, etc.

While I’ve been dreaming of and plotting this move for nearly half my life, maybe more, it hasn’t made the overall experience less traumatic or stressful. Between preparing my house to sell, the marketing of it, the selling, endless packing, and then moving, it’s a gnarly process. And it’s not finished yet. While I have arrived at my destination, I’ve yet to find a place to live, so I’m living somewhat of a nomad life, with all of my earthly possessions locked in storage. I’m generally a homebody, an earth sign, so my version homelessness just adds to the trauma.

There’s also the emotional roller coaster to consider. For me, next to having children, which I forgot to do, owning my own home was tantamount to adulthood status. It took me until the age of 42 to achieve that milestone. I’m a late bloomer. Not owning a home is a choice I’ve made for the moment, but it’s difficult to wrap my brain around that concept after having spent a lifetime of convincing myself that not owning a home is not an option. Then there are the monumental life events that happened in my house—the good, the bad and the ugly—a house that is now someone else’s. Some memories I’m happy, no, thrilled, to leave behind. Others… well, I think it will be a long, long time before I can accept that I will never ever again have access to where they were made. Many challenges, indeed.

However, ever since I’ve embraced the writer in me, I now see life’s challenges as potential fodder for my stories. Anything that’s difficult, interesting, new, or just plain awful, I now tuck away for future reference. Rather than allowing negative and terrible experiences to get me down, I think of the potential storylines or plot twists I can catalogue along with my insights from the road to use for future writings. Honestly, if not for my writer’s perspective, I’m convinced I would have gone mad many years ago.

One plus about the move was that I was fortunate to meet and become friends with a U-Haul employee who, when I realized I was too tired and stressed to drive the truck myself as planned, so kindly offered to drive the ginormous 26′ truck for me. It was kismet that we met, and a trip that had the makings of an absolute disaster ended up being probably the most fun roadtrip I’ve ever taken. I cannot remember a time when I’ve laughed so hard for almost two days straight. Yes, it’s true, it is something I don’t think I ever want to do again, but if not for U-Haul Amy—her humor, her thoughtfulness, her calm in every terrible situation, and her super driving skills—who knows where I’d be right this very moment. I shudder to think. I think the best insight from the road I can give is to listen to the voice in your head in times of stress. If it says to you, “You may not be able to do this safely,” you should listen and accept help from good samaratins. Don’t be a hero. Dead heroes are, well… dead.

So this part of my journey is finished, but I will still be without my own home for another six weeks. Thankfully, I have loving family members who are willing to house me and my little dog in the interim. I think they might be a little insane, but still I’m grateful. While I wait, my plan is to write, write, write. Dot in the Weeds needs my undivided attention and I shall give it forthwith.

I hope my insights from the road were helpful. Check out my Amazon.com author page HERE.

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Moving Part 2 — DJuna Shellam The Write OWL — Episode 19

Moving Part 2

DJuna Shellam The Write OWL—Episode 19

This week’s Episode 19, Moving Part 2, is a little different from the episodes previous, as it is my first “Driving With Djuna” installment. Yes, I love to drive my little car, so I thought I’d make some episodes while driving. Why not? Shake it up a bit, eh?moving part 2

I’m continuing on this week with the theme of moving, only because it’s all I’m doing. Since last Wednesday, I’ve been packing, packing, packing; yet, I look around and nothing seems to have changed. I expect that any moment now, I’ll look up and realize I’m done. Right?

Meanwhile, I fantasize about completing my writing projects. I imagine what Dot’s going to do once Em, Eve, Prairie and Liam arrive at her home in Palm Springs. Oh, you haven’t gotten that far yet? That’s alright, because that’s all I plan to give you in regard to Dot in the Weeds.

I’ve also been mulling over “my,” that is, the Djuna Shellam, official autobiography. I wonder how much I should tell about Djuna’s life. There are some dicey bits, so you know, I don’t want to get her in trouble in the process of sharing her most extraordinary “life.”

Meanwhile, I toil with packing; making sure everything that can fit into a box ends up in a box. And those things that don’t fit into a box? Well, I have to make sure they don’t get damaged in the moving process. It’s tedious. I’ve never been one to handle tedium very well, and this moving project is testing every little bit of my resolve to move. But move I shall. I can’t turn back now. My house is, for all intents and purposes, no longer mine. Technically it is, but to cancel the sale now would be disastrous. And anyway, why would I? I’m toiling, poorly, I might add, in 115ºF heat with summer right around the corner. I’m convinced I live on the Sun.

Well, while I’m preparing to hit the road with all of my belongings in tow, heading for the Great Northwest, check out The Em Suite if you haven’t yet. Let me know in the comments section what you think will happen in Dot in the Weeds. Who knows—you might be right!

Moving—Djuna Shellam The Write OWL—Episode 18

Moving — Part One

Djuna Shellam The Write OWL—Episode 18

In this week’s episodes, Moving—Part One, I’m breaking with protocol a bit in order to accommodate my weariness. As you will learn, in both episodes and in this blog, I am in the process of moving. It’s a move of considerable distance, so it requires careful packing (I liken it to preparing to move to the Moon), which is tedious and time-consuming.

Moving, as I’ve said on many occasions, is not my friend. I’ve moved quite a bit in my lifetime, but haven’t done so (for myself, at any rate), in nearly fifteen years. And there’s a reason for that. Moving sucks, especially when it’s just you doing it. And it’s keeping me from progressing on my writing. Yeah, yeah, I might be whining a little.

While I’m extremely grateful for the opportunity to move, that I was finally able to sell my house and put a bit of change into my pocket, so-to-speak, it’s an all-encompassing endeavor that seems as if it’s never-ending. Writing my blog is really the only writing I’ve been able to do. It’s frustrating. You see, I don’t mind at all if I don’t write when I don’t have anything pressing to write. When a story isn’t pounding on the door demanding to get out. I’m not that writer that freaks out over writers’ block. Writers’ block, what’s that? No, periods of writing dormancy works just fine for me. But when I do have something to write, that I want to write, then it’s frustrating when I can’t.

So this week, instead of producing a blog and a video episode each for Sunday and Wednesday, I’ve decided to moosh the two days together into one. I’ll probably do that for the next few weeks. I need to finish up packing my belongings, then I have to transport them far away, and then… I’ll be a bit of a nomad for a while until I find just the right spot on which to land. I’m hoping to get back to a two-a-week schedule by then, which will be the last half of June. Fingers crossed, eh?

If you haven’t done so already, please check out The Em Suite Series if you are looking for something good to read. Please note, when I say “good,” that’s just my opinion. You’re the ultimate judge on that.